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I'm easily triggered by what other people post on IG 😔 how to handle this? Please help..

I'm easily triggered by what other people post on IG 😔 how to handle this? Please help..

snaildaddy69

I'm working in online marketing for almost 15 years and quit social media too. While I can tell you, that social media is basically curated content that doesn't represent real life with all its ups and downs, I want to give you some "quick fixes" for your business. I'm still working with some clients on social media marketing, while I don't have any personal account left on any platform whatsoever (except Reddit I guess lol) Have you ever thought about using a tool like Socialpilot or Later to (semi) automate your social media marketing, without having to be present on the platform itself? This could help you both on a mental level and professional level. In the end it doesn't matter what your "competition" does as long as you're able to follow your plans. Being an artist myself, I know of the pain, struggle and doubt to put yourself out there. For the sake of your business and mental health you definitely have to find a solution now, while working on the issue itself. If you need any advice in terms of your marketing strategy and how to streamline/automate your workflow, feel free to DM me. (free of charge of course) Take care :)


luneduck

Thank you so much for your advices. I do know that there are apps that let you auto-post to Instagram but they are pretty costly (if converted to my currency because I don't live in the US) and mostly offer yearly plan only. I'm currently using Planoly's free plan since it also let me manage my posts. I'll check on Socialpilot and also thank you for your offer! I'll DM you when I have some questions later 😊


snaildaddy69

If Social Pilot is too much, try Later (it's called like that) They have a free plan which should suite your needs. All the best :)


paru_thakur

Yepp, I too love SocialPilot for all the features they have. Started my job with free tools but to an extent, they do have some limitations. I have experienced two other popular paid tools but am now stuck with SocialPilot forever I guess. Everyone here who is looking for the best reliable tools should give a try to this amazing software.


hazeltabby

instagram life is fake. those pictures are filtered, staged, carefully constructed to sell you an illusion. stop looking at other people's accounts. the problem is that you put yourself down and find a way to validate it even if your own environment gives positive feedback. sometime somebody made you feel that way and you still use it as a reference point, but is there any truth to it?


luneduck

Well.. I would say that the answer actually lays in how i see my self worth and my self value.. 😣


hazeltabby

I understand that you have low self esteem. I just don't understand why you would put strangers from instagram on pedestal. the current generation is not exactly the finest quality of humanity :D


bigfatpeach

I think theres something about Ego and how it acts a defence mechanism for you. As I understand it, you see other people post their work, you then compare your work to theirs, as you feel that their work is superior to yours, then you feel you are not as good as them and it makes you stressed because of that. First of all, good job of being aware of that. Awareness precedes control. It is most definitely a confidence and insecurity issue. I would do several of these things; change the way you examine other people and their work, change the way you produce your work and separate your intrinsic value from an ability. 1. Changing the way you examine other people and their work; \-Instead of looking at other people's work as an attack against you, see it as a stepping stone and an inspiration to further your own skills. Their work is just their work. It has nothing to do with your own intrinsic value. It's just a production. By itself, there is nothing linking that to you. If you think about it more, theres nothing less logical than looking at a piece of art or media and attaching a judgemental aspect to you specifically. 2. Change the way you produce your work; \- Constantly skill up. Ego stems from insecurity; so work on that insecurity. Be proud of what you make. Be proud that you are taking steps to improve. And it doesn't matter what the result is; as long as you are working on yourself and your skills, what is there not to be proud of? 3. Separate your intrinsic value from an ability; \- Just because you may be have more success than another person on the same line of work, does not mean you are worth any less as a human being. We are more than our "work". Dr K is more than just a doctor. It doesn't define him. These are just labels we put on ourselves. But we transcend that. Take the moment of being on the toilet. Who are you when you take a shit? Are you a person who makes art at that moment? Is Dr K a doctor when he takes a shit? No. We are just taking shits. Nothing more. Nothing less. I hope this helps you. I am not a coach or a therapist. I only come up with answers that I feel has a sort of truth to it. Good luck on your journey.


luneduck

Thank you so much for your comments.. And this words actually hits me "it's just a production" or "it's just a picture" which is actually true.. And also for the point no 4, this is something similar to what my psychology-student friend told me: "you are not your product. The value of your products isn't the same as the value of yourself" but I still have difficulty to separate myself from my work. I do understand that I need to work on my insecurity better, maybe this really is the time for me to talk to a professional..